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Life With Lupus

Unwrapping Our Gifts


#1

I was led today on an internet journey that ended up with me reading a blog post about an old dog. It was very sweet and very positive, speaking of leaving behind the bad things in our past and being in the now while looking on to our future. But something he said really struck a chord with me.

"Gifts are everywhere, even if they are wrapped in mystery and challenge, in scars and fear." - Tom Ryan

This is very true. This can be applied to almost anything. But mostly, I find it applies well to how I need to view life through Lupus. I say 'through' Lupus because I do feel like I must look through my condition in order to see how to get on about the things I want to do. Everything is colored by the lens of Lupus. That may sound defeatist in a way, but it really isn't.

I've recently come to accept and come to terms with my diagnosis. Took me a while, but I understand now why that is. I needed to prove to myself that I could do this. That while Lupus clearly was going to change my life, it didn't have to change me. Do I do all the same things I used to? Nope. Do I aim for all the same things I used to? Not always. But can I go ahead with my life anyway, despite the changes Lupus has brought? You bet! So I had to live life, find my way through while still making allowances for these changes. I needed to show myself that it wasn't the end of the world, that I could do it. And I have. I may not always LIKE these changes, but I can still cope with them and still be ME.

For myself, that is what is at the root of Mr. Ryan's statement. That despite whatever daunting challenges, fearful moments, mysterious obstacles, or scarring events happen... there is still good in the world, in my life, in me! I am still worth something, I am still valid as an individual. In fact, I might have a jump on the world in this aspect, because my life gives me extra reasons to look for and unwrap these hidden gifts, these blessings that are often overlooked or undervalued.

It can be so easy to be pulled under by the sheer, daunting weight of unknowns and negatives that come with a Lupus diagnosis. There is a reason Lupus patients are prone to depression. But I say we fight for our happiness. That we look for and treasure these gifts, and share them with each other, to help lift and brighten someone else's day as well. We have a thread for it here, but I am guilty of not posting there and not reading there nearly so often as I should. Let's try harder to do that. I'm certain that doing so will ease our hearts and bring smiles to faces that need them.


#2

I share your sentiments And your outlook. Bravo!!!


#3

Amen! What an awesome gift to wake up to and read. Thank you!!!


#4

So beautifully written and so true. Life is full of lessons and offers so much beauty. Be sure to look around, embrace the day and keep faith that things will turn out.


#5

Thank you Talencia! It was wonderful to wake up and read this as I really needed a bit of inspiration.

The fight is always there, but it really helps to read your beautiful thoughts!


#6

Talencia....thank you, thank you, thank you........ This is how I feel, but somehow don't always convey. Let's all look for the good in every day we have. We shouldn't be wallowing in self-pity, even though we sometimes have reason too. Who 'wants' to be sick, tired and depressed. Being sick, it's easy for us to slip into it, because our family and friends don't always understand us, or don't even try too.....Let's all make a pact to find three GOOD things in everyday...more if you want to challenge yourself. Come on, let's have fun with it. Today, I woke up and my stomach didn't hurt as much, my dogs wanted to be patted, and my husband went to the store for me, without me asking. That's 3, and it's only noon !!! Everybody, have a good week-end, and feel better.


#7

This is exactly what I needed to be reminded of today! Thank you, Talencia, from the bottom of my heart!!!


#8

BEAUTIFUL !!! Thank you Talencia !!! We all need to keep a positive attitude and " BLOOM where we are planted " :)


#9

Thank you so much for sharing this! Your right, it is important that we fight for our happiness and am grateful that you reminded me of this


#10

Thank you so much for sharing this, your words are encouraging and inspiring. I am printing out your post for continued encouragement on the hardier days and for motivation to rise above the challenge.

You mentioned about a thread here for positive posts. I am fairly new to this site and was wondering if you could give me more info on that.

Blessings,

Stacey


#11

It hasn't been used very much lately, so it got buried. Let's try to bring it forward more regularly!

Post Something Positive!

Holding onto Hope said:

Thank you so much for sharing this, your words are encouraging and inspiring. I am printing out your post for continued encouragement on the hardier days and for motivation to rise above the challenge.

You mentioned about a thread here for positive posts. I am fairly new to this site and was wondering if you could give me more info on that.

Blessings,

Stacey