Question

If you could go back 15-20years, what piece of advise would you give yourself?

Mine would be sunscreen ;) Living on the beach in a French bikini covered in oil...not my brightest idea.

Actually, it would be pay attention to your health.

Would love to hear others.

DeAnne

I WOULD OF PUT UP WITH MY CHEATING HUSBAND SO I WOULD NOT BE ALONE TODAY.

I WOULD JUST PUT UP WITH HIS CHEATING WITH WOMEN.

whathappensinvegas said:

Mine would be sunscreen ;) Living on the beach in a French bikini covered in oil...not my brightest idea.

Actually, it would be pay attention to your health.

Would love to hear others.

DeAnne

Go with your gut. Love yourself.

Exercise more and use sunscreen. Feel free to do whatever gave me joy!

I guess just live more!

I would advise myself to be my best advocate with drs and to respectfully question when I disagreed with them. But to love and accept myself enough For that to occur. I would also advise that it is ok to think of myself ahead of others sometimes in order to care for me and my emotional, mental, physical and spiritual needs. That it is ok to expect mutual respect and reciprocity in all relationships, and then if chronic abuse continues to attempt to work it out but it is ok to severe those toxic connections if those behaviors continue, because it is a part of the healing process. If I loved myself more when young and dating, my internal communications would have told me, " I deserve better" and ran at the warning signals I received. I would have listened to my gut when I originally broke off the engagement and left it rather then marry. I am the result of my decisions… 20 years later.

Listen to my intuition it was right all along!!

I agree with the always use sunscreen , and I would add eat healthier , and exercise more...

This is the advice I would give myself back then "Read God's Word each day, rely on Him who loves you and wants only the best for you. Pursue the things that you truly love instead of doing what other's expect of you."

To ask for help when I need it. People do want to help they’re just waiting to be asked.

WELL, I DID WRITE SOMETHING BUT I DO NOT SEE IT.

I WOULD NOT GET DIVORCED AND LET HIM RUN AROUND AND ALL OVER ME. UNTIL HE GREW UP I THINK NOW HE TAKES RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERYTHING WITH A NEW WIFE.

I TAUGHT HIM WELL I GUESS.

MAYBE I SHOULD OF KEPT HIM???
WHAT DO YOU THINK??

MICKEY AND RUSH

HEY VEGAS MISS YOU. I GLAD TO SEE YOU ARE HANGING TUFF. SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU ONLINE AND POSTING.

WISHING YOU THE BEST ALWAYS!!

MICKEY AND RUSH

I would have payed more attention to myself and not my obligations to others--fifteen years ago this diagnosis sneaked up on me. And, above all not feel like I'm crazy just because a doctor or a friend said so.

You have to hold on.

Listen to your intuition - Your Higher Power is using it to guide you.

DEAR TRISHA, HAVE YOU EVER FELT DEFEATED WITH EVERYTHING. THE PAIN, THE NURSING HOME AND THE LITTLE BIT OF MONEY I GET.

I FELL MENTALLY LOST.

PYSICALLY WEAK !!

TOO MUCH PAIN TODAY.

MICKEY AND RUSH

Wow!! Really 15-20yrs., let me see if my mind will do this-smile , to day is a fog day! But am going to try! Well!, since my Lupus (SLE), is in my family (which side Don’t know noone can say or has been to the doctor for this), I think that I would tell myself Wait I forgot , so am going to do this at a later time. Sorry! Today is crazy it is so cold here and my body want to do something else!!..Beverly L.

I would take beter care of my health and watch my diet. But wish I knew then what was wrong with me would have made things in life easier. Just thankful thatwe know now and that i have knowledge about my condition and that i am not a hypocandract as i though i was.

Excellent message to self! I feel exactly the same things should have been acted upon!

Ann A. said:

20 years ago I accepted inaccurate diagnoses about the sources of my chronic pain. I knew that they were wrong but I felt completely stymied about how to get better diagnoses and treatment. I finally got one correct diagnosis at age 63 and had the kidney surgery to repair the congenital defect. I got a second correct diagnosis at age 65 and finally starting finding ways to compensate for the length, size, and strength differential of my legs (another congenital defect compounded by the fact that orthopedic surgeons do not measure in small enough increments).

So, I would tell myself not to stop seeking accurate diagnoses. Not to be put off by paternalistic and condescending physicians who sometimes speak most authoritatively when they do not have a clue what is really going on in a patient's body. I would tell myself to not get blocked by HMO practices and physician mindsets after HMO's were replaced by PPOs. I would tell myself to find a great pain management specialist ASAP and not wait for the PCP and the orthopedic surgeons to agree that I needed one. I would inform myself that my path to wellness was being blocked by old guys not willing to admit that pain management physicians offered valid modalities for chronic back pain and my inability to go around them. And I would also tell myself that it is really not very bright to think that I do not have time to eat a nutrient dense diet. It is like saying that I need to drive somewhere but I don't have time to put gas in the tank - or I'll worry about putting gas in the car after I arrive at my destination.

Oh, I would give myself a long lecture. And did I mention that I would tell myself that I needed more vitamin D. I was photosensitive and lactose intolerant, I took prednisone and anticonvulsants. I should have known that I needed more supplemental vitamin D, even if my docs did not.

Use sunscreen and not ignore t constant advice to care for yourself as you get older, hopefully I’d listen to myself!

TO BE HONEST,I WOULD HAVE MY PARENTS GET SOME MEDICAL HELP FOR WHAT THEY HAVE DONE TO ME AND MY SISTER WHO HATES ME AND ABUSED ME)

I WOULD have them arrested for CHILD ABUSE,)! They would all be in (my parents)

PRISON,FOR THE beatings they gave me since the first day,I was brought home from the hospital.

MY SISTER TOLD MY PARENTS "all she wanted was a dog)!!!!!!!!! FROM THAT DAY

FORWARD I WAS NOT WANTED. MY FATHER WANTED A SON. I WAS IN THE WAY. BEATINGS AND MUCH MORE HAPPENED TO ME THE FIRST TIME I CAME INTO THIS WORLD. I WOULD PLEA WITH GOD NOT

TO BE BORN. IF I HAD A CHOICE!!!!!!!! MY FAMILY,WOULD NOT BE PARENTS NOR WOULD I ' NOT HAVE A SISTER.

Always MICKEY AND S.D. RUSH